Alien Sissy from Outer Space! RIP David Bowie

An Alien Sissy Made Me A Mistress

Alien SissyLike most people on the planet now, I’m too young to have been around when that alien sissy known as Ziggy Stardust hit the scene with his androgynous look and his undisguised bisexuality. And I was pretty damned young when the Goblin King paired huge hair with a huge codpiece and sprinkled a ton of glittery fairy dust in between.

I don’t know of any budding, young kinkstress who didn’t fall a little in love with him at the line “I ask for so little; just fear me, love me, do as I say and I will be your slave.” (Pause for a moment, please. Mistress has to swoon.)

But perhaps more importantly to me, isn’t the influence he had directly, but the influence he had on the people who influenced me. He really brilliant and influenced so many artists, writers, and musicians with his look, sound. lyrics, and candor. And because I’m a Sissy Mistress, my focus will naturally come back to the way he explored the fluidity that can be gender and sexuality.

No Original Ideas?  So  Fucking What?

Now, obviously, my favorite alien sissy isn’t the first person to have done it. People had done it before him and people have done it since… Truth be told, while I like Bowie, and love some of his song, I’ve never considered myself a fan.  But you’ll be hard pressed to find anyone under seventy who plays with gender roles who wasn’t influenced by him, either directly, or indirectly.

The New York Dolls, The Eurythmics, Divine, RuPaul, Richard O’Brien(Creator if Rocky Horror Picture Show,) Boy George, Madonna, Laverne Cox, Lady Gaga, and most importantly; my best friend from childhood,  are just a few of the people I can think of off the top of my head who have acknowledged Bowie’s interest on them.

Whether you were a fan, or just the fan of a fan, we all owe him a debt of gratitude for stepping up to take a part in the evolution of gender perception and sexual acceptance.

In the closet or out of the closet, the world is a slightly friendlier place to be a sissy these days.. And that’s in part because of Bowie and those he impacted.

You still may not be able to come out of the closet in your small, country town, but you can come talk to me.. and because of that, you’re life is vastly improved, now isn’t it? 😀

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RIP David Bowie

Mean Mistress? Me?

Mean Mistress Me

I’m not much of a mean Mistress.  I don’t suppose that’s news to many of you.  But I recently received an email from someone asking if I do anything a little darker than my usual, playful domination.

Check out that free gift recording up at the top of the page.  You’ll see.   My usual tone leans toward the playful.  I can sometimes grow a bit harsher toward the pinnacle of my recordings, but that’s more of a passionate tone than a mean one.

I get that tone in about half of my recordings, so I couldn’t even tell him which stories had it in them.  Even when I get like that though,  you may call me demanding, but I don’t think I’d qualify as a mean Mistress.

Meaner Mistresses and Masters

Slave of a mean mistress

For kink with a  darker theme,  I told him (and I’m telling you, for those who have an interest in it) about  a school of BDSM called Gorean.

There are many reasons I wouldn’t recommend a Gorean lifestyle to anyone.  It’s misogynistic, unrealistc, and relies on a set of rules created by a fictional world from some pulp novels to dictate the rules of engagement.  Oh… and it allows people to become “insta-Doms” by requiring any man to be called Master regardless of if has ever inspired a moment of submissive feelings in another person.

BUT.. there are some aspect of Gorean play that a sissy sub exploring her options for debasement might enjoy.

Gorean submissives are truly objectified.  They’re treated like slaves and dehumanized as little more than livestock.  They’re referred to without names, as simply “Girl” or “boy.”  They don’t even refer to themselves with an expression of personal identity.  There is no “me,” or “I” in the vocabulary of the Gorean slave.  They refer to themselves simply as “this girl” or “this boy.”

All men and women are referred to as Master or Mistress, unless they are slaves.  A distinction is made for the slave’s personal owner who is  distinguished by calling them “my Mistress” as opposed to simply “Mistress.”

Despite the problems I have with it, Gorean slavery can be beautiful.  It’s very ritualized and there are many rules to learn for slaves and Dominants alike.  For exampple, the positions in which a slave kneels and whether she keeps her knees together or apart are all dictated by her station as a slave.. and what services she’s required to silent offer to the masters around her.

While it’s never been my cup of tea,  I’ve been to Gorean parties and they’ve inspired a few of my stories.  In them, I treat my pet as little more than a piece of fuckmeat.

If you’d like to explore them, the first is called

Your Utter Debasement for My Enjoyment


and the other was called simply




I hope you like them